What shall I do when everything goes wrong in my life?

What shall I do when everything goes wrong in my life?

These are 6 tips I received from some people in my life and I thought it’s worth sharing.

1. Fully accept the reality of what is.
1. Life spins with unexpected changes every hour; so instead of avoiding it, take every change and experience as a challenge for growth.
2. Either it will give you what you want or it will teach you what the next step is.
3. Of course, this isn’t easy – it will be an ongoing struggle. But it’s infinitely easier than continuing to fight to conform your life to some antiquated delusion.
2. Remind yourself that everything in life is temporary.
1. Every time it rains, it stops raining. Every time you get hurt, you heal. After darkness, there is always light.
2. You are reminded of this every morning, but still, we often forget, and instead choose to believe that the night will go on forever.
3. It won’t. Nothing lasts.
3. Push yourself to take another step, and another, no matter what.
1. The most beautiful smiles are usually the ones that struggled through the tears.
2. Because breakdowns often lead to breakthroughs in the end.
3. Every mistake, heartbreak and loss contains its own solution, its own subtle lesson on how to improve your performance and outcome next time.
4. Try to not let the few things that are out of your control interfere with the infinite assortment of things you can control.
5. Sometimes, just trying is enough for the time being.
6. The truth is we all lose sometimes. The greater truth is that no single loss ever defines us. Learn from your trials. Grow wiser. Press on.
4. Focus on making tiny fixes.
1. When everything is broken, it’s easy to find plenty of little things you can fix.
2. When there are problems in every direction, there is also great value waiting to be created.
3. When everything is going well, it’s easy to get lulled into a routine of complacency.
4. It’s easy to forget how incredibly capable and resourceful you can be.
5. Resolve to persevere by making tiny fixes every day. It’s these minor tweaks that take you from where you are to where you want to be in the long run.
6. Small steps, little leaps, and tiny fixes (very small repetitive changes) every day will get you there, through thick and thin.
5. Look for something small to appreciate.
1. You may not have what you want, and you may be very hurt, but you still have more than enough to appreciate right now.
2. Don’t pray for the big miracles and forget to give thanks for the ordinary, simple, and yet not-so-small gifts in your life.
3. It may seem strange to feel thankful for those events in your life that appear to be ordinary, yet it’s precisely by being thankful that you can transform the ordinary into the extraordinary.
4. At the end of the day, it’s not happiness that makes us thankful, but thankfulness that makes us happy.
6. Give yourself the extra attention you need and deserve.
1. Resisting and ignoring your own feelings and emotions does not serve you.
2. It leads to stress, illness, confusion, broken relationships, fits of anger and bouts of deep, dark depression.
3. You have to admit, to a certain extent, you have spent too much of your life trying to shrink yourself.
4. Trying to become smaller. Quieter. Less sensitive. Less opinionated. Less needy. Less YOU.
5. Refuse to shrink. Choose to take up a lot of space in your own life.
6. Choose to give yourself permission to meet your own needs.
7. Choose to honour your feelings and emotions. Choose to make self-care a top priority.

Anyone who’s experienced depression knows that these states of mind are horrifically unhealthy, and when you’re in the habit of self-neglect, it’s near impossible to escape.

I suffer from clinical depression.

On some days, if someone told me these things, I still wouldn’t be able to make it out of my bed without help.

On other days, when I’m better, I tell myself to try.

To try for my own sake.

And I know, it’s really really difficult, it is. But I hope you can try, to try.